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Post by Forever Sunshine on Sept 10, 2011 16:24:50 GMT -5
Feel free to discuss . . .
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Post by snerdley on Dec 22, 2011 19:56:44 GMT -5
OK, I will go first. Marriage can be tough.
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Post by snerdley on Dec 22, 2011 19:57:34 GMT -5
It took us many years of learning to deal with each other without driving each other bonkers.
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Post by gavinsnanna on Dec 22, 2011 20:58:09 GMT -5
I am mad at hubby because he wont tell me what store he is at and what he is buying me!!! ;D
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Post by daphne87 on Dec 23, 2011 5:17:07 GMT -5
My poor husband ... our marriage isn't as "equal" as one should be. I do laundry and grocery shopping, while he does pretty much everything else around here. I do love that man!
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Post by roygrip on Dec 23, 2011 8:40:15 GMT -5
My poor husband ... our marriage isn't as "equal" as one should be. I do laundry and grocery shopping, while he does pretty much everything else around here. I do love that man!
WOW! Gonna read this to the wife. I'm the soul bread winner (what she does make spends on herself)PS, I maske a very high 5 figure income, so we ain't rich, and we ain't poor. I cook, grocery shop, have to do my own laundry.
Yes we're on shaky ground for the last year.
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Post by snerdley on Dec 23, 2011 9:22:23 GMT -5
Roy, what do you to that is together to care for one another and the household.
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Post by Spellbound454 on Dec 23, 2011 10:04:31 GMT -5
My relationships are the other way around I end up doing everything and he does very little.
I just end up being a work horse.
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Post by roygrip on Dec 23, 2011 10:55:08 GMT -5
Roy, what do you to that is together to care for one another and the household.
I feel real un-appreciated for the last year. My job entails 60-70 hr weeks. I get home, I then cook dinner, for us, dinner I shopped for. No thank you, no, I love you. When I ask the question, OK what's going on, I get a fight. She works one day in two weeks, The rest of the time she watches TV, cleans her area, or goes bike riding. Not great. I provide, a roof, clothes, food, love (until a year ago). Now I'm ambivelant. Even our daughter looks at her with a question? We still go swapmeeting together, movies, trips, those are fun. But again, I'm providing all the planning and entertainment. So! It feels very onesided.
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Post by moxie on Dec 23, 2011 11:29:10 GMT -5
My husband misplaces things like keys, important papers and then blames me for moving them when I clean. Not fair! I only do that like 85% of the time. ;D
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Post by moxie on Dec 23, 2011 11:30:32 GMT -5
roy: I love you and appreciate you for ALL the things you do.
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Post by Forever Sunshine on Dec 23, 2011 11:31:19 GMT -5
I'm glad I'm single!
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Post by moxie on Dec 23, 2011 11:32:48 GMT -5
Today at 6:17am, daphne87 wrote:My poor husband ... our marriage isn't as "equal" as one should be. I do laundry and grocery shopping, while he does pretty much everything else around here. I do love that man! I am lucky too...the key is seeing each other infrequently! Absence REALLY DOES make the heart grow fonder. He has always traveled am I am used to it after all these years. We have a lot in common as far as activities/interests, so we have plenty to do when we are together. Looking forward to him being here full-time though...soon???
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Post by moxie on Dec 23, 2011 11:36:31 GMT -5
I'm glad I'm single!
Waiting on a Tuscan boytoy, eh??? ;D
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Post by moxie on Dec 23, 2011 11:37:28 GMT -5
We are going to look for HIS tv this afternoon... Date night tonight...kids are hanging with Grandma.
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Post by moxie on Dec 23, 2011 11:42:01 GMT -5
I really have few complaints...he is a good, decent family man...a wonderful father and husband. He has a few quirks, but the good outweighs the bad.
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Post by moxie on Dec 23, 2011 11:43:46 GMT -5
I wish I could get him interested in antiques and flea markets...he is starting to though...he likes watching "Storage Wars." ;D
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Post by femme on Dec 23, 2011 11:59:36 GMT -5
My poor husband ... our marriage isn't as "equal" as one should be. I do laundry and grocery shopping, while he does pretty much everything else around here. I do love that man! This is too cute daphne...He's a keeper! ;D
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Post by shirina on Dec 23, 2011 12:47:00 GMT -5
I refuse to get married. I have no desire whatsoever to do so. I'm far too independent; my mother said that I learned to fly before I learned to walk, referencing that I've never been one to enjoy being tied down. I think I'm at my most miserable when my options are slim to none.
A lot of why I won't do it comes from environment - marriage in my family has never been successful, and too often I've seen a lot of couples imposing a lot of "parental rules" on each other: bed times, curfews, what you can do in your spare time and with whom; if I'm going to be treated like a teenager again, then I want the summer vacations to go with it!
But I find a lot of it disturbing on a societal level. I just read an article about a week ago outlining a scientific study showing how most people consider good sex to be the number one necessity for a happy marriage. All of the rest - romance, togetherness, generosity and charity, commonalities, shared dreams and goals, a sense of "oneness," ALL of it takes a back seat to sex.
What the ... ?
No wonder half of marriages end in divorce. I fear we still act like animals even when we're in love. I want nothing to do with it.
However, I do live with two roommates - a couple, in fact, though they aren't married. Can I have a whine-fest about my roommates? Especially one of them? I think she is the laziest person to EVER exist at any time in all of human history. I'm willing to bet that she'd still be warming the Throne of Laziness even if we included all the histories of any extraterrestrial civilizations, as well.
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Post by isa on Dec 23, 2011 13:03:33 GMT -5
Ah yes, Shirina, though I think be careful not to throw the baby out with the bathwater - disparaging marriage is one thing, disparaging love quite another. I'm with you on the marriage boat as it happens; I understand why some might want to get married but I don't see it as necessary myself. I know a few people whose parents have enjoyed long & happy lives together without the traditional commitment of marriage. Occasionally I'm subjected to shows such as 'Bridezilla' (if you've ever seen it?) and I come away thinking that perhaps many people who get married do so because they are more interested in the wedding than the marriage. Some people are addicted to pomp, I've noticed, so weddings are ideal.
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